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Going Mental???

Life is not about having no problems, but rather about being able to resolve them quickly when they occur. (Grant Brecht)

verybody who has been or is going through adolescence knows that being a young person is not easy. Too much homework, problems with parents or pressure to keep up with friends is some of the problems that they have to face on a daily basis. At the same time, adolescence also experience some changes in their bodies, or/and minds. In other words, youngsters have to deal with external problems which sometimes drive them nuts.

If you think that sometimes you don’t understands your own feelings, don’t know what you want, and worry too much about what will happen next, you’re not alone. You’re at this stage called unstable period the time for searching and building your identity, the real you. Knowing about some problems that may occur along the way will help you to get through this bumpy chapter of your life.

Stress

Sleeping problems unexplainable sadness panic attacks sudden anger and/or moodiness are signs of stress. When you already have one or two of those symptoms you should be aware that you need to do something.
The most helpful method of dealing with stress is learning how to manage the stress that comes along with any new challenge good or bad. Knowing how to de-stress and doing it when things are relatively calm can help you get through challenging circumstances that my arise. Here are some things that can help keep stress under control.
• Take a stand against over-scheduling. You know your limitations; just do the things that receive priority and cut out the unnecessary ones.
• Be realistic. Don’t try to be perfect - no one is.
• Get a good night’s sleep. Getting enough sleep helps keep your body and mind in top shape, making you better equipped to deal with any negative stressors.
• Learn to relax. Reading a good book, making time for a hobby, or spending time with your pet can put you at ease and reduce stress.
• Treat your body well. Getting regular exercise help your body get the right fuel to function at its best. Under stressful conditions, the body needs vitamins and minerals more than ever.
• Watch what you’re thinking. A healthy dose of optimism can help you make the best of stressful circumstances.
• Solve the little problem. Learning to solve everyday problems can give you a sense of control. But avoiding them can leave you feeling like you have little control and that just adds to stress.

Nice To Know:
• Having a little stress can help keep you on your toes, ready to rise to a challenge.
• Stress-management skills work best when they’re applied regularly, not just when the pressure’s on.

Body Image and self esteem

Are you happy about your physical conditions? Or do you think that you are skinny, too fat, too short, or thin? Or maybe you have this mule or scar you really want to get rid of. Whatever you think, you should know that body image is based on your thoughts and feelings about the way your body looks. Poor body image comes from negative thoughts and feelings about your appearance. Body image is a major factor in self-esteem, which is the way you think and feel about yourself as a person. Self-esteem can also be based on how you think other people look at you as a person. Whenever you feel low, try to remember these:

• Your body is your own, no matter what shape, size, or color it comes in. Other people may say whatever they want, but they’re not the master of your body.
• You’re unique because you’re not just a copy of someone else.
• What’s inside your brain and mind is more important than your looks.
• Try to focus on improving your behavior and skill. Giving enough time to nourish your talents will help you to improve your unique qualities.

Nice to Know:

• Treating yourself with respect and realizing that every part of you is worth caring for and protecting will help you keep a healthy attitude towards yourself.
• Building a good self-esteem can take a long time and is not always easy, but knowing that you can improve your self-esteem is the firs step.

Peer Pressure

Sometimes, the problems in your life can actually come from your peers. They may pressure you into doing something you’re uncomfortable with, such as smoking, shoplifting, doing drugs or drinking, or taking dangerous risk when driving a car. This pressure may be expressed openly or indirectly. Sometimes a group can make subtle signals without saying anything at all letting you know that you must dress or talk a certain way or adopt particular attitudes toward school, other students, parents, and teachers in order to win acceptance and approval. There’s no magic to standing up to peer pressure; it does take courage to deal with it.

Here are some tips:

• Listen to your gut. If you feel uncomfortable, it means that something about the situation is wrong and absolutely not for you.
• Plan for possible pressure situations. Learn a few tricks to act or do certain things you want to avoid. If you’re holding a bottle of water or a can of soda at a party, for instance, you’re les likely to be offered a drink you don’t want.
• Learn to feel comfortable saying no. Although it’s difficult to say no you should practice to do it when necessary.
• Hang with people who feel the same way you do. Choose friends who will speak up with you when you’re in need of moral support, and be quick to speak up for a friend in the same way.
• Blame your parents. You can say, “Are you kidding? If my mom found out, she’d kill me, and her spies are everywhere.” Using your parents for a shield sometimes is helpful. Only don’t do it too often, or you will be labeled as a cry baby.
• If a situation seems dangerous, don’t hesitate to get an adult’s help.

Nice to know:

· It’s not always easy to resist negative peer pressure, but when you do, it is easy to feel good about it afterwards.

· Consider yourself a leader, and know that you have the potential to make a difference.

Instant Messaging (commonly referred to as IM) is an online communication method similar to e-mail, except that it is generally faster. Using an IM program such as Windows Messenger, AOL Instant Messenger, or Yahoo Messenger, you can send a message which will be received almost immediately by the person you sent it to. When your friend types a response, you see that right away.

Use IM more Safely
Communicating by using an IM program has some of the same security and privacy risks as communicating by e-mail, but there are a few additional dangers that you should be aware of. Take a look at the following tips for safer IM.
1. Be careful when creating a screen name. Each IM program asks you to create a screen name, which is similar to an e-mail address. You screen name should not provide or allude to personal information. For example, use a nickname such as SoccerFan instead of JakartaFenny.
2. Create a barrier against unwanted instant messaging. Do not list your screen name or e-mail address in public areas (such as large Internet directories or online community profiles) or give them to strangers. Some IM services link your screen name to your e-mail address when you register. The easy availability of your e-mail address can result in your receiving an increased number of spam attacks.
3. Never provide sensitive personal information, such as your credit card number or password in an IM conversation.
4. Only communicate with people who are on your contact or buddy list.
5. If you decide to meet a stranger that you know only from IM communication, take appropriate safety precautions. For example, do not meet that person alone, (take a friend or parent with you), and always meet and stay in a public place, such as a café.
6. Never open pictures, download files, or click links in messages from people you don’t know. If they come from someone you don’t know, confirm with the sender that the messages (and their attachments) are trustworthy. If they are not, close them.
7. Don’t send personal or private instant messages at work. Your employer might have a right to view those messages.
8. If you use a public computer, do not select the feature that allows you to log on automatically. People who use that computer after you may be also to see and use your screen name to log on

With all these precautions, hopefully your instant messaging activity will be a smooth and safe experience.

Snake in the Bath

How would you like to find a snake in you bath?

We had just moved into a new house, which had been empty for so long thet everything was in a terrible mess. Anna and I decided we would clean the bath first, so we set to, and turned on the tap.

Suddenly to my horror, a snake's head appeared in the plug hole. Then out slithered the rest of his long thin body. He twisted and turned on the slippery bottom of the bath, spitting and hissing at us

For an instant I stood there quite paralyzed. Then I yelled for my husband, who luckily came running and killed the snake with the handle of a broom. Anna, who was only three at the time, was quite interested in the whole business. Indeed I had to pull her out of the way or she'd probably have leant over the bath to get a better look.

We found out later that it was a black mamba, a poisonous kind of snake. It had obviously been fast asleep, curled up at the bottom of the nice warm water-pipe. It must have had an awful shock when the cold water came trickling down! But nothing to the shock I got! Ever since then I've always put the plug in firmly before running the bath water.

Crazy Chase

School activities really burn me out. That's why I usually doze off on public transportation on my way home. That afternoon the habit took its tool. As soon as I had secured a nice seat by the window, and slide open the windowpane, I fell asleep. When I finally got up only to find that I had way passed my destination, I panicked. "Stop...stop!" I shouted and jumped off the vehicle. On the street, I still couldn't make head nor tail of my where abouts. I decided to cross the street. As I was about to do it, I heard someone shouting angrily behind me. I turned around and saw a man waving at me. I didn't know what I was thinking but I ran off like crazy, crossing the street recklessly to get away from him. But he tailed me. Now I was really terrified. Passersby were beginning to crowd to watch the chase. The man finally stopped and again, shouted at me, "Miss, will you just stop running! I just want to ask for your bus fare. You forgot to pay it."

From : en.wikipedia.com

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Banyuwangi

Once upon a time, there reigned in East Java a king named Sidureja. He had a prime minister named Sidapaksa. Sidapaksa had a very beautiful wife.

Sidapaksa loved his wife deeply. They lived in complete happiness. However, Sidapaksa’s mother didn’t like her daughter-in-law. Each day she tried to think a way to separate Sidapaksa from his wife.

One day, King Sidureja asked Sidapaksa to search for the bud of a magic flower on Mount Ijen. It was a long and dangerous journey. The assignment from the king was so important and urgent. Sidapaksa had to leave his pregnant wife.

Not long afterwards, a son was born. The baby’s birth gave much happiness to the young mother.

However, one day, while this young mother was bathing, her evil mother-in-law threw the baby into the river. Knowing that her baby had disappeared, the young mother was very sad. She cold neither eat nor sleep. She became very ill.

Two years passed and Sidapaksa returned from his journey. He succeeded in doing his duty. Just as he was about to enter his house, her mother told him that his wife had thrown their baby into the river.

Sidapaksa believed his mother’s story. He was too angry to use his common sense. He drew his Kris and approached his wife who was lying weak on her bed.

“Ah, wicked woman. Tell me why you threw our new-born child into the river. Tell me!” he said in a rough and angry voice.
“Oh, my dearest husband. I’m innocent. I love you, and our baby. I didn’t kill our child. If you don’t believe me, carry me to the river. I will prove that I didn’t do it,” replied his wife calmly.

Sidapaksa took her wife to the edge of the river. Suddenly, his wife leaped up and threw herself into the river.
“Oh, my God! How will I know who killed my child?” moaned Sidapaksa.

Then he looked down at the water. Suddenly, two pure white flower-buds appeared, one larger and taller than the other. A sweet fragrance came from them.
“Sidapaksa, look here! Beside me is our child. He himself will tell you who drowned him,” the taller one spoke.
“Father, my mother is innocent. Grandmother threw me into the river. Now I’m happy because my beloved mother has come with me,” the smaller one spoke. Then, the two flowers vanished into the water. They left their fragrance behind.

Since then, people call the city on its banks of the river Banyuwangi. Bayu means water and wangi means fragrant.